So, I am not one of those Mothers that just automatically think their children are the most beautiful children ever, for me it's the whole package. Having said that, I do think Joshua is a smart, funny, and a sweet little boy but I happen to think he's quite good-looking and that he will grow up to be a very handsome man (It might be because he's the only child that really looks like me).
Last night, out of no where Josh lands a bomb on us that he doesn't like his face. I didn't know what to say all I could think was how in the world did I get a 7 year old that has the thoughts of teenagers and what else is he not telling me. We talked about it for a while and I really tried to help him but I honestly don't know how to help him, I don’t want him to have a low self-image that people take advantage of but I also don’t want to have an arrogant son that isn’t so nice to girls. Bottom line is I don't know how to help him, I am really at a loss.
Last night, out of no where Josh lands a bomb on us that he doesn't like his face. I didn't know what to say all I could think was how in the world did I get a 7 year old that has the thoughts of teenagers and what else is he not telling me. We talked about it for a while and I really tried to help him but I honestly don't know how to help him, I don’t want him to have a low self-image that people take advantage of but I also don’t want to have an arrogant son that isn’t so nice to girls. Bottom line is I don't know how to help him, I am really at a loss.
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Did he say why he felt that way? Maybe some kid said something mean to him and hopefully he will forget about it.
Well, I think Josh is a cutie and when I see those skinny legs dance I can't help but laugh..
Josh has got a lot going for him! He is hilarious, he is smart, he is cute,he is sweet, and he is a good kid.
I don't know what to tell you expect keep reinforcing the positive you see in him.
ok- whether you want it or not you are getting kristy advice:
1.tell him Heavenly Father made his face and talk about how special that is.
2.tell him sometimes we all find things in oursleves we don't like but we have to learn to love it-then point out all the good things about his face (like, I love your bright smile-it always makes me happy, etc.)
3.Don't ever talk bad about how other people look in his presence (it puts ideas in kids heads).
4.sorry if you didn't want my advice-i am sure you already thought of all that.
Kristy,
Thanks for the advice. I had not thought of that but my wonderfully insightful husband has, it's a good thing I've kept him around this long.
It's not what we think about Josh, it's what Josh feels about himself. His world is very small, it consists of his little family and small group of friends and what he sees on TV. He may not realize how some children may not have the wonderful features he has to do his eating, drinking, smelling, talking, and hearing. Self worth is someting we all seek for, and it shows so early in children these days. When we love ourselves unconditionally, we can love others that way too. I believe it starts with being grateful for what we have.
And if this doesn't help, I think it was Confusious who said, "It doesn't matter what my kids look like, I'll always have the Gap."
p.s. I raised his mother.
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